Don’t Hate on Valentine’s Day

I don’t understand why people hate on Valentine’s Day. It’s not one of my favorite holidays, but I rank it far above St. Patrick’s Day (pointless) and would put it in my top 5. It’s one of those occasions that people either love or hate and I think some of that has to do with the person’s relationship status. I will admit the one year I didn’t have a Valentine my best friend and I called it a commercialist pagan holiday. Until the guy I had a crush on called me over to study and I said peace out to my friend and smiled for the rest of the day. Since that year, I have had a Valentine and I will admit that’s probably why I do like the holiday.

Most of the Valentine haters say things like “you should show your love everyday” or “I don’t want flowers that are gonna die in a few days anyway.” Okay, I agree that you should show your love every day. I don’t need flowers, candy, balloons and a bear on Valentine’s day to know that my husband loves me. He does show me every day, but that doesn’t take away the happiness I feel when the flowers come, or he surprises me with balloons in my office. Since we’ve had kids, I appreciate the small Valentine’s gifts, a card and dinner at home with him and my boys even more. My happiness on Valentine’s doesn’t take away from the other nice things he does. To me, saying having a day to express your love is pointless is like saying there’s no need to celebrate birthdays and anniversaries. Just show your significant other that you’re happy you got married every day instead of just on your anniversary and see how that flies.

For those who aren’t in a relationship on Valentine’s Day it doesn’t mean you have to shut yourself up in your home and curse flower, hearts and candies. Look around at the love of family and friends. That same year I didn’t have a Valentine, a friend’s boyfriend sent a single yellow rose to each of her friends and a red rose to her. It was a simple gesture showing that he was thinking of us. Do something simple for your mother, father, brother, sister or best friend. Make the day about showing love to everyone you love, not just a lover.  My mom gave me a new set of dish towels for Valentine’s day. Nothing fancy, but it brought a smile to my face and reminded me again how much I love and appreciate her. That’s why I love this holiday. Small tokens from those you care about mean as much if not more than flowers that’ll die, candy that’ll make you fat or a teddy bear with 2012 on the foot that will collect dust in guest bedroom.

Instead of cursing this commercialist pagan holiday, call your parents and tell them you love them, send a friend flowers, buy chocolates for your co-workers. Enjoy being alive and knowing someone—even if it isn’t a lover—loves you.

Happy Valentine’s Day!